Play

Swan Mountains, MT

Swan Mountains, MT

I was told by a psychic once that I came here ( to this life) to play. She was correct.  I'm a hard worker and a good employee but when it comes down to it, I would rather be playing. I am not alone in this. I feel like most people would rather be playing.  Who wants to work when you could be out playing? 

It's really too bad that as adults we don't get a recess during our work day. Sure we get a lunch break, but how relaxing and joyful is this time? Are you truly able to disconnect and be in the present moment? Are you able to blow off any steam? I have 30 minutes to eat and pump ( still breastfeeding). I do get another 20 minute break through the day which I normally use to eat and pump. Since my work day doesn't allow much time to play, I try and make an effort to play after work or before. Now, "play" looks different for everyone. I look at play as an activity that brings me joy and allows me to have fun and be in the present moment. For me this is normally a physical activity like playing at the park, yoga, mountain biking, road biking, hiking, and playing games with my lil one. 

As adults we have so much on our plates. Schedules, deadlines, expectations, and desires can take over our lives. Over time these things can create stress and in that stress we lose our sense of joy. We don't find time to play anymore. Judgement from others or judgement we put on ourselves can start to hold us back from trying new things or living authentically.  We look at others on social media and forget who we really are. We become envious and ignore the fact that we too have plenty of wealth ( in many different forms).

So what does this have to do with play? Some of the happiest and content people I know find time to  play. They are on bowling leagues, play golf, mountain bike, rock climb, raft, roller blade, have board game nights. They do activities that allow them to laugh and be present. They disconnect from stress from time to time so they can be better workers, parents, and spouses. Life has so much stress in it. If we let those stressors take over it can seem like all hope is lost. I found that once I started "playing" regularly I became better at dealing with life's stressors.  Finding activities I enjoy has helped me connect to my true self. Play is also great for connecting you to other like minded people. 

 

Lets face it, we have to work. Well at least most of us do. We have to do some adulting and take care of issues that arise. So much life energy goes into things that drain us.  I think there needs to be more focus on the enjoyment of life. We should make more space for things that provide positivity and growth.  We need to play more. We should be allowed to be silly and ridiculous. We should be able to dance like nobody's watching.  Cartwheels should be an appropriate form of transportation. Have we put so much focus on the seriousness of life that we have forgotten how to have fun? Sometimes I don't know. I speak with lots of people who say all they did all weekend was watch Netflix. I speak with people who don't know what to do with their paid vacation. I speak with people who want to be at work because they don't know what to do with their free time.  Have these people all forgotten how to play?  How to have fun? Maybe it's just that I don't find those things all that fun. Maybe I am judging other  peoples free time unfairly? I just may be...BUT....if these people were to truly comment on their happiness levels what would they say? My guess would be that they are bored and don't know what else to do with their free time.  

Play with your kiddos. Enjoy bowling or curling with your friends. Join an adult softball league. Try something new. Get off the coach and go for a bike ride. Dance to your favorite song.  Use your paid vacation to indulge in your own interests. Not interested in anything? Maybe you just haven't found your "thing" yet. 

The bottom line is to enjoy life. Really enjoy it. Use your personal days to do something personal. Laughter is the best medicine. Play, laugh, enjoy yourself, repeat. 

 

 

 

 

Mychal Lynn